People say that individualists think only of themselves and nothing could be further from the truth! This is one of the great lies directed against individualists and it deserves a little investigation and consideration. To think unselfishly in consideration of others, especially loved ones, is one of the most common things in life. We love to help others, to support others, to be friends to others. This is healthy and this is human!
But the individualist draws a line in the sand when he or she is told that they need to help others, to support others, and to befriend others! As long as we are doing the choosing we are in control and what we offer to others is truly unselfish and from the heart! As soon as it becomes an obligation or a moral duty, something that we should do it is no longer freely given and it is no longer an unselfish act.
I can’t help myself, that’s the way I am! That phrase doesn’t cut it anymore for the true individualist. Their thoughts, feelings, and actions are not ruled by obsession but by personal choice. To be obsessed by something is to allow it to become master of us and that takes away any free will or choice. It’s absolutely healthy to be enthused and excited about something, but not to the point that we become a slave to it.
If I had made a bucket list of the 20 most important things that I would like to do in life I’ve already done the top 18 and only have a couple at the bottom of the list left to do! Granted, none of the things that I did turned out the way I had expected them to, or even the way that I wanted them to! But I did them, and nobody can take that away from me. There are so many people that I see who don’t even try to reach for their dreams! They don’t believe in themselves enough to even give it a chance. That is because they lack self-esteem and have a poor sense of self. They don’t believe in themselves and they don’t believe in their own ability to do things! So they don’t even try and their life, their youth is wasted and their old age is spent in bitterness for what they could have done.
Make no mistake about this, the failure to act and believe in yourself is a habit that prevails within our modern society! We are bombarded daily with messages that we should not act on our own but call professionals in to do things for us. We are not encouraged to be self-reliant in any way at all! And that is a big problem!
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