Five of Pentacles
Symbol- they have physical sex
Meaning- entrapment
When they have physical sex for the first time an interesting thing happens. Sex is not what they thought it would be. This is especially true for the female experience.
In any case energies are exchanged of a lower physical sexual level. By this point the male should have worked through his sexual fears, angers, and repressions and should have a fairly healthy approach toward sex. He is able to see sex and lust as an important part of a normal life. He has worked very hard to achieve the physical life he has and it reflects his ideals and spiritual ambitions.
He is surprised that her experience is different from his and needs to adjust his behavior if she is to gain the same enjoyment that he does from sex. A whole new area of life experience opens up for him and he looses himself in sensual pleasures. He tries to understand her and her sexual needs and this is an important time of personal growth for him. He has to think of her needs as well as his needs and often they are not the same.
He is seen trying to encourage her in more sexual experiences and she is seen as trying to avoid sexual experiences.
After her first sexual encounter she is forced to generate low level physical sexual energy. This energy activates all of her repressions and fears that she has to this point tried to hide from. The harsh reality of physical life forces itself upon her and there is no escaping it.
Sex doesn’t have a spiritual quality at all. It is more like two dogs having sex in the street. It is pure animal. She is not really ready to accept or admit the animal part of her own nature. This is very disturbing to her. This new lower level energy is not yet in harmony with the other energies that she has learned to generate.
In contrast, this low level sexual energy brings a welcome grounding effect to him. He has always had a tendency to be to intellectual and abstract. This energy helps him to be a more earthy person.
Male experience:
Sex is the one thing that makes life real for him. It is able to ground him solidly in reality so that he can be more effective in living the type of life that he wants. He is surprised she doesn’t share the same enjoyment in sex that he does. In fact, she often tries to discourage him from sexual encounters. This makes for some difficulties within the relationship itself.
Female experience:
Sex is not at all a spiritual experience for her. It is more of an animal experience and it brings up her inner fears and repressions that she would sooner forget. She doesn’t like to think of herself as a grunting, sweating body. Her illusion about sex being a special thing is shattered and shattered very badly. She is not at all comfortable with the idea of being a physical sensual being.
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