Anarchistbanjo's World

The Suit of Cups is about emotional energy and the emotional dynamics within relationships. There are the higher emotions of love, joy and pride as well as the lower emotions of lust, anger, hatred and fear.

Emotions are not controllable. We can not control how we feel but we can control our physical actions. In like manner it is not right to feel guilty about our emotions. Right or wrong our emotions bring richness into our lives.

Relationships are largely about emotions and they will spark every emotion we have at some point. It is important to feel our emotions deeply and learn to understand them. It is also important to not let emotions dominate our life and our actions. Emotions are like sensory inputs that give us information. They have no reasoning ability and should not be used to make decisions.

The Tarot cards can not begin to describe the richness of all the possible emotions within relationships but we can generalize on the emotions of love and romance.

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Nine of Swords

Symbol- He must become worthy of her. She wants to become worthy of him

Meaning- He gives her the key

He has benefited from his platonic friendships with other females. He has learned to be relaxed and comfortable around them and learned some of the things they are interested in.

He learns what they are attracted to in a man and can use that knowledge to make himself more attractive to the opposite sex. He is beginning to understand what a healthy relationship would be like.

He wishes that one of his platonic friendships would become more sexual in nature but it doesn’t. This creates a slight tension in his friendships that he doesn’t really know how to deal with. He would like a more serious relationship with her but she is content with things just the way they are. They are good friends and that is enough.

To her relationships have always been a roller coaster ride. At first she was on the top of the world and felt like a real queen. Everyone treated her so nice and did things for her. She actually began to believe she was as good as her dates said she was. She began to take advantage of them and abuse the relationship.

Later she took men away from other girls and fought to date the most popular men. Then these men began to dump her and she was left alone with no one interested in her.

It was all so intense and so uncontrolled. She enjoys her conversations with her platonic male friends. They are casual and relaxed. She can be her self and say what she really feels without worrying about others getting the wrong idea about her.

These platonic relationships have a stability and comfort she enjoys. Earlier she would have thought them boring. She is beginning to look for stability and comfort in her relationships.

The popular men that always have to be the center of attention now annoy her. They all seem so fake and shallow. She is looking for someone with real inner strength and a strong sense of self.

Male experience:

He enjoys his platonic friendships with other females. He is able to feel relaxed and comfortable around them. He is starting to understand the opposite sex and what they like in a man. He is able to make himself more attractive to them and is well liked.

He is somewhat frustrated because he would like a more sexual relationship but his female friends are not really interested in serious relationships right now, at least not with him. They would rather have him as a friend than as a romantic interest.

Female experience:

Her new platonic male friends are real comforting to be around after the stresses of more serious relationships. She likes the stability and the relaxed atmosphere. After so much excitement it feels good to just slow down for a while and feel comfortable around males.

She learns a lot by just being friends. Maybe men are not really the jerks she thinks they are. At least, maybe some of them are not jerks. She is drawn to the more quiet types that have a strong inner strength and a depth that her other dates didn’t have. These men are not trying to get in her pants all the time. They actually are interested in what she thinks and in what she has to say.

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Seven of Swords

symbol– He is a wimp. She is a shrew

Meaning- Loss of innocence

As his personality and sense of self become more developed his behavior changes. Instead of acting out social roles like the football star, the cowboy, the rebel, or even the nerd, he begins to act as himself.

Just being himself is very gratifying and he isn’t trying to prove anything to anyone. People can take him or leave him just as he is. He has found a source of inner strength within that no one can take from him.

He doesn’t really stand out from the crowd anymore. In fact, he kind of blends into the background most of the time. If circumstances demand he will take command in an emergency but he prefers to let others have the spotlight. He feels no need to be the life of the party anymore or the center of attention.

She doesn’t understand or even recognize his newfound inner strength. All she knows is that he isn’t the big man and center of attention he used to be. He has become a wimp in her eyes and she despises what she sees as weakness in him.

She is ruled by her emotions at this point but beginning to transmute sexual energy into mental energy. She is beginning to realize she has been used and discarded.

This awareness brings resentments and she is quick to voice her accusations. She becomes a real shrew. She is developing a bad attitude toward men and they are beginning to avoid her. They would much rather be with more sweet tempered females. This avoidance makes her even angrier. She wants to have fun but no one can stand to be around her much less to date her.

She fights to retain her place in the limelight. She attacks those that are now the popular ones and tries to undermine their popularity. This is a loosing battle because people would rather be around positive individuals than be around negative individuals and she has become quite negative.

Male experience:

He has found a source of inner strength and sense of self. He doesn’t have to prove anything to anyone any more and blends into the background. He wants to find his true path in life and start his life’s work. He is ready to get on with life and leave childish games behind.

He quietly and without fan fare begins working to achieve his goals in life regardless of what others think or say. He is committing himself to a major course of action.

Female experience:

She wants to enjoy the limelight and be the center of attention but that is behind her now. The popular dream date has dumped her for someone else. Where she used to take men away from other girls, now they take her men away from her.

The popular guys are not interested in her anymore. They think she is turning into a shrew and not fun to be around. She is beginning to develop a bad attitude toward men. She thinks they are all wimps because they can’t stand up to the force of her personality.

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Two of Swords

symbol-He looks in the mirror. She becomes a groupie.

Meaning- movement

Social dating is magical for him. As his mental energy combines with her mental energy the world seems to transform around him. They act as catalysts for each other and the entire world opens before them.

He becomes the philosopher’s stone transmuting all he contacts. He has self control at all levels. He can do as he pleases as long as he lets her do as she pleases too. His mind is filled with the things he is going to do for her.

The entire world opens before him in a way it never did before. His awareness alters and he sees the world from a mental perspective that is more objective. He is more realistic about things and understands what must be done if he wants to achieve his goals and dreams in life.

He understands she is responsible for his change in perspective. He feels she somehow brings out the best in him. He wants more of her energy. He wants as much as he can absorb.

Unfortunately he can only absorb an amount equal to the amount of mental energy he generates. He is limited in how much spiritual/light he can transmute into mental energy. He is not used to doing this and the proper energy channels have not yet been developed.

His personal belief system is not yet developed and he borrows from that of society. He tries to modify society’s rules and expectations to fit his own. In other words, he tries to be what society wants him to be and not whom he wants to be. He conforms to societies wishes and to her wishes.

As she dates him she gets to know the person he really is and senses the lack of originality he presents. She can tell he is not being true to his own inner nature. This makes him boring to her. She is more interested in males that stand out from the crowd and are more original. She is drawn to those with strong personalities and egos.

She has an excess of energy and it is exciting for her to be daring and date those that stand out from the crowd. She wants him to stand out from the crowd. By making him feel important she makes herself feel important too. She is actively feeding his inflated image of himself. He willingly takes her energy and adoration and at first this makes her feel good too. She tries to get him to take more risks and become more adventurous.

This is very exciting for him and soon he is moving in circles that he never did before. He is more popular and interesting. He takes her energy for granted. After all, he is now very popular with the girls and others are after him too. He decides to stop seeing her. She is his first conquest.

His rejection is very hard for her to accept. She has done and given so much. She has sacrificed her love and mental energy to him and he has rejected her. Life has become a grim and deathless task. She feels she has been used and has heavy feelings of guilt and unworthiness. He was her first love and he betrayed her.

She was open with him and serious about the relationship for the first time in her life. Other males had convinced her that she was desirable and sexy. Now all that old confidence was gone and she was confronting all of her secret fears and shames. This is an important time of self realization. He did not want to be around her any more.

She must realize that in spite of her personal flaws and handicaps she is still a desirable and sexy female. He has a grossly inflated ego and is a very shallow person.

Male experience:

When he is dating her, he sees the world in an entirely new and exciting way. Her energy transforms his life and his concept of self and self-worth begins to develop.

It is difficult for him to generate enough mental energy to develop a complete concept of self. Instead he adopts a stereotyped “role” that he plays instead.

If the role he adopts is unusual he will stand out from his peers and attract more than his share of attention, good or bad. This attention will draw more female energy toward him and help in the process of ego development.

Female experience:

As she dates she becomes bored with the average male and is drawn toward those that seem more exciting to her. She is attracted to individuals that stand out from the crowd and gives them her energy.

Her attention may be positive or it may be negative. She may tease and ridicule someone cruelly or she may fall in love with someone and want to be with them all the time.

In the end she becomes one of many that give away energy to that particular individual. He becomes personally indifferent to her and this is very hard on her ego. He will seem to have more of a sense of self than she does. She feels that somehow she has lost and he has won.

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