Being assertive means to reclaim our own personal power to live as we choose to live! From our mistakes and successes we gradually gain faith in our own ability to meet obstacles and situations creatively. With time and experience we become skilled and resourceful in awkward situations.
Everyone experiences lead feet, a lump in the throat, and being paralyzed with fear at some point in their lives. By being assertive we move past those things with will and determination. At first we are victims, then we learn. When confronted with anger, fear, pain and anguish or when we feel those emotions we need determination and resolve to continue doing those things which we want to do. This means physically going through the unpleasantness, confronting it and reaching the joy and success on the other side.
Being assertive means taking risks, doing new things, and being successful at them. Hard work will earn rewards and in time the struggle and competition can become enjoyable. After many attempts we learn and become more skilled. There is no way to avoid those first baby steps and the discomfort of feeling vulnerable.
When we have a positive and supportive family we can do anything. When our family is negative or abusive we can’t do anything or so it seems. Our closest friends and relatives have tremendous influence on our ability to be assertive. We must have a supportive family even if we need to create one for ourselves. That means finding a group that we feel comfortable in and whose members are all going to help each of us to become more assertive and believe in ourselves.
Together we will push our comfort zones and learn new skills that will help us have a more successful and enjoyable life. Being assertive takes energy. Energy is created by physically doing things. The most powerful form of learning is learning by doing. This new series of posts will share how we can become more assertive.
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