Anarchistbanjo's World

What about our strongest personal desires? Often we want things so badly we will do or give anything to achieve them. We feel hurt anger and helplessness when they are taken out of our reach. We want these things and we can’t have them! This is especially true in relationships that involve other people because no matter how much one person wants a relationship both people must want it equally to make it happen. In time we learn to desire things that are within our grasp and within our abilities.

It is important to aim our sights high because otherwise we will lose our desire to succeed in life. Many parents have killed the higher ambitions and their children by not giving them the emotional support that they need when they need it. This often happens during the critical teenage years. As teenagers we have no strongly focused personal desires. We flip from one thing to the next in seconds and are content with the adventure. We experience joy and happiness at each new discovery. Our world is so large and there is so much opportunity that we don’t know where to start.

Every teenager knows that life is good, that they are invincible and have the ability to achieve what they want in life! That is the secret of living emotionally! Emotions make life rich and worth living. Life without emotions is empty and lonely. But the motions have to be integrated and they have to work for us, not against us! Often our own self-destructive emotions become our worst enemy. Powerful emotions such as anger and fear can be channeled in positive ways to create willpower and the ability to confront fears directly. When you get angry and say “this will not stop me!” You are using that anger or that fear to move forward in a very powerful way but this does not come naturally and must be learned and mastered in a very personal way through life experience.

It is the transmutation of these darker negative emotions into perseverance and strength of will that assist in the development of competence, self-esteem and the development of the soul.