Anarchistbanjo's World

Eight of Cups

Symbol– young girl cuts her hair to look and act like a boy.

Meaning- join forces

She is beginning to use her painful emotional energy to create a better future for herself. He is already content and has his desires fulfilled so she begins to absorb his energy and use it to create the type of life that she wants.

If he won’t do it for her she will either make him do it or go out and do it herself. Nagging and bitching have little effect on him and in the end she decides that if she wants the good life it is up to her to get it.

She decides to act upon her desires and dreams and he encourages her. If he has what he wants out of life, well so should she. It is exciting to see her go out and get what she wants. She is almost acting like a man and somehow that is sexually stimulating to him. She is a lot more than those females that stay at home all the time. Her emotional pain is driving her into new creative acts.
He is beginning to get more interested in her as a person. He even tries to give her some advice and free opinions but she doesn’t want any of it.

She wants to do this herself. This is her dream and her life and he isn’t really even a very big factor in it anymore. All that she needs from him is his love and emotional energy, hell, forget the love, all she needs from him is his emotional energy.

He can sense her slipping away from him and it alarms him. She cares more about her work than about him and their relationship. He voices his fears and resentments and hostile, angry emotional energy begins to be generated. The relationship begins to deteriorate.

Male experience:

At first she wants him to do everything and nags him unmercifully. It seems as if she can be a real shrew and he wonders where the sweet young thing disappeared to. After a while she stops complaining and begins to do things herself. This is great.

Soon he realizes that she doesn’t need him any more. She insists upon doing everything her self, even those things that he likes to do. He begins to feel unwanted and resentful of her.

Female experience:

When she realizes that she won’t get any help from him she pretty much writes him out of the story altogether. She doesn’t bother him anymore and just decides to achieve her dreams on her own. As she begins to get results she feels real joy and a sense of accomplishment.

As soon as she begins to be successful she notices that he wants to stick his nose in everything and run it the way that he wants. This is her dream, not his and she won’t allow him to ruin it for her ever again. He can’t seem to understand and they begin to have arguments and fights over what she can and can’t do.